Aries man Scorpio woman fighting style how to stop arguments fast!
Okay so here’s the messy truth about my partner (Scorpio woman) and me (Aries dude). When we clash, it’s like two speeding trains on the same track. Boom. Total destruction. I fly off the handle first – pure Aries fire, zero filter. Say stuff I don’t even mean half the time, just gotta explode, ya know? Slam a door, raise my voice, big gestures.
Then Comes the Scorpio Payback…
She? Oh man. Doesn’t yell back at me. Nope. That initial blast? It hits a brick wall. Ice cold silence. She just shuts down. Walks away. Completely vanishes. Won’t answer calls, texts go into the void. Stonewalling, pure and simple. And she holds onto EVERY WORD I said. Files it away. Forever. That silence? It’s worse than my shouting. Makes me crazy anxious.
One fight got real bad. Real stupid argument about unloading the dishwasher – pathetic, right? But my Aries pride kicked in. I had to win. Ended up saying something incredibly harsh about her way of organizing things… implying it was dumb. Not my finest hour.
She gave me that icy Scorpio stare. Said nothing. Just… left. Blocked me on her phone for the whole day. No word. Nothing. Tried calling over and over, text bombing apologies… crickets. Felt like utter garbage.
Desperate Times, Weird Idea
Was climbing the walls after 8 hours of dead silence. Panic setting in. Found this old note I wrote to myself months ago – “72 HOUR RULE. FORCE IT.” No idea why I wrote it or where it came from. Probably scribbled it down half-asleep after watching some random self-help thing. Was pure desperation.
Forced myself to STOP. All contact. Total radio silence on my end too. No more frantic texts. No more calls. I walked away too. Took a stupid long drive. Screamed into the void myself.
What Actually Happened:
- First 24 hours: Agony. Wanted to fix it NOW. My Aries impulse was screaming at me to barge in, demand attention, justify myself. Felt physically sick ignoring it. Kept reminding myself: just 72 hours.
- Hours 24-48: Started calming down. My adrenaline crash hit hard. Really thought about the dishwasher comment… why I really got so mad (turns out it wasn’t the dishes, surprise surprise). Could see her point clearer.
- Hours 48-72: Weirdly… calmer. The sting faded. That obsessive need to WIN the argument faded. Prepared a simple “I was wrong to say that” text. No long justification. Just that.
After the Countdown
Hit send exactly at the 72-hour mark. Held my breath.
Within an hour? Got a single text back: “Okay.” Classic Scorpio. Short, controlled. But… she was responding.
The key? She UNBLOCKED me without drama. Didn’t mention the radio silence rule. Weirdly neutral. We tentatively started talking about normal stuff later that day. The fight? It wasn’t over over. She definitely hadn’t forgotten my stupid comment. Scorpios never forget. But the immediate war? Ceasefire.
Big takeaway? Trying to talk sense into her when that Scorpio wall is up is pointless. Literally talking to a brick wall who hates the wall. My fire just feeds it. Stopping everything – my rage and my frantic fixing – forcing a full stop… it let that toxic air clear enough for both of us to breathe. Not about winning. Literally just about stopping the bleeding fast. Learned to walk away the SECOND I feel that explosion brewing. Physically remove myself before the first dumb word flies out. Hard as hell for an Aries, but cheaper than days of agony. Still together, huh? Somehow.
